Finding out you’re pregnant is a moment you’ll never forget. You might feel a mix of emotions— joy, nervousness or even hesitation, especially if you’ve experienced pregnancy loss before.
But once the initial excitement settles, you may wonder when to share the big news. Is it better to announce it early or wait?
The truth is there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Timing depends on your comfort level, health and situation. We spoke with Cindy Weiler, PA-C, a physician assistant OBGYN with Banner Health, to share her expert insights to help you decide when to announce your pregnancy and how to feel good about your choice.
What to consider before announcing your pregnancy
Deciding when to share your pregnancy news can feel exciting but also overwhelming. Here are some factors to think about before telling others:
- Who to tell first: You may want to start with the people closest to you who you trust versus coworkers or others who are more acquaintances.
- Your comfort level: There’s no right or wrong time to announce your pregnancy. Some people are eager to share early, while others prefer to wait until they feel more secure. Take your time and share when you’re ready.
- The risk of miscarriage: You may not feel comfortable talking about pregnancy losses, which could make follow-up conversations harder if you share early on in your pregnancy. “The risk of miscarriage is the highest in the first trimester, which is why some people wait to announce their pregnancy,” Weiler said.
- Symptoms or concerns: Certain pregnancy symptoms might make you want to delay sharing the news. “Symptoms like pelvic pain worse than menstrual cramps or any vaginal bleeding – brown to bright red – are possible signs of miscarriage,” Weiler said. “If you’re experiencing these, see your health care provider immediately.”
- High-risk pregnancy: If your pregnancy is high-risk, your provider can help you decide when to announce it based on your baby’s growth and development.
- Your work situation: Another important step is to tell your employer. If your job involves physical demands or health risks, you may need to share earlier.
- Emotional readiness: Your mental and emotional health should come first. “Don’t let pressure from others influence your decision,” Weiler said. “Do everything in your power to minimize stress. Your physical and mental health comes first, and that’s not selfish.”
- Cultural or family traditions: Some families or cultures have specific beliefs or traditions about when to share pregnancy news. Consider these if they are important to you.
- Posts on social media: Social media is a fun way to share your news but it’s not for everyone. Deciding to post online depends on your comfort level and how much you want the world to know about your pregnancy. It can eliminate the need for repetitive conversations but also open the door to unsolicited advice and questions.
Announcing a pregnancy in the first trimester
The first trimester is a time of big changes for your body and baby. It’s also when many people experience pregnancy symptoms like morning sickness, exhaustion and a rollercoaster of emotions.
Why announce early?
- You are excited and want to share.
- You want to feel supported by close family and friends.
- You need help managing symptoms like morning sickness or exhaustion and/or help with younger children.
If you choose to announce in the first trimester, consider sharing only with those you trust and who will support you no matter what happens.
“It’s okay to tell the people you’re closest to — parents, siblings and close friends — before the first trimester ends,” Weiler said. “These are likely the same people you’d feel comfortable talking to if you miscarry. They’re there to support you no matter what happens.”
Waiting until the second trimester
The second trimester begins around week 13 and is a popular time to share pregnancy news. By this stage, the risk of miscarriage drops and you may feel more secure about your pregnancy.
Why announce now?
- You want to ensure everything is progressing well before sharing.
- Waiting gives you time to adjust to the news yourself.
- Your symptoms have improved and you have more energy.
- You’re starting to show, making it easier to share the news.
Sharing in the third trimester
The third trimester begins at week 29. By this stage, waiting to announce is less common but it can work if privacy is important to you.
Why announce late?
- You value privacy and want to enjoy your pregnancy quietly.
- You have faced pregnancy challenges in the past and feel more comfortable waiting.
However, keep in mind that waiting too long might leave little time for baby showers, sprinkles or work leave planning.
Telling your employer
Deciding when to tell your employer can feel tricky. It’s your choice when to share but most people wait until the second trimester unless their job involves risks like heavy lifting or exposure to chemicals.
If you’re unsure about workplace timing, think about your role and how much time your employer will need to plan for your leave. You can share when you’re ready but giving them time to prepare often helps everyone.
Tips for telling your boss:
- Choose a private, quiet time for the conversation.
- Be clear about your plans for maternity leave.
- Bring ideas for how your work can be covered during your absence.
Handling other people’s reactions
Reactions will vary depending on when and how you announce. Most people will be excited for you but some may have questions or concerns.
Focus on positive reactions. Politely redirect intrusive questions and remember that this is your journey. You don’t owe anyone explanations. Prioritize your and your baby’s well-being.
Takeaway
There’s no perfect time to announce your pregnancy. What matters most is that you feel ready, supported and confident in your decision. Trust yourself and don’t let outside pressure rush you. This is your moment to share on your terms.
If you have questions or concerns about your pregnancy, talk to your health care provider or a Banner Health specialist.
